People always say that you’re not supposed to have regrets:
How do you feel about that? After being the victim of trauma, would you go back and take it away, or are you thankful for what being a victim has taught you? After all, we wouldn’t be who we are today, without it.
Clearly nobody on this planet deserves to be abused or hurt in any way, it pains my heart to know that the world is full of sadness and disparities. We see every day, on the news, online, and in our own lives, the horrible way people are treated and the difficult truth of how these events change who we are from that moment on. It changes everything about us. The way we think, the way we trust, the way we love (or the way we never accept love again), the way we live.
So, would you go back and take the trauma away?
Personally, I know that my trauma’s have made me who I am today. I hate myself most days and I’ve become nothing in this world. I have no quality of life left in me. I can’t hold a job, I live my life depressed, I can’t accept or give love or trust in any human being. BUT, I’m also proud of myself in so many ways, for overcoming the evil that’s been done to me. I’m very empathetic (I’m actually an Empath), I want to help anybody and everybody else I possibly can, from being hurt like I have, I’m strong and brave even during the worst moments in life. Although I have my days of falling apart in the midst of some of the worst moments.
So would you go back and take your trauma away or do you appreciate who you are because of it?
The aftermath of abuse: Mental Illness 
Hi Jamie. This is a tough question! Honestly I don’t think I would. Like you, it breaks my heart that people have to go through this. I don’t think I would change my trauma for a couple reasons. First reason being that my son (now 14) is from an abusive relationship. He is my EVERYTHING. The second reason is that without my trauma, I wouldn’t have made the decision to move across the country where I am today. Believe it or not, I am the happiest here than I ever have been. I have grown a lot as a person and have realized my own downfalls not just because of my trauma, but because I have chosen to. The third reason is because my trauma (much like you) is the reason I started my blog. I am actually working on a post now, but it can be so difficult sometimes. Difficult as it may be, it needs to be said, because it lets others know they are not alone. I am also an empath, and I have noticed (for me) that not only do I have the ability to feel others emotions, but my own feelings are heightened. Good or bad. Feeling things differently is both a blessing and a curse.
I’m really sorry you’re going through so much. Just remember that your daughter will actually help you through this more than you will ever know. I hope you find the strength you need, and you can start to love yourself again. 🙂 Send an email through my contact page if you ever need to chat.
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Thank you for commenting!! I appreciate you sharing your experiences. I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through whether I know the details or not. I’m absolutely not comparing my situation to yours but I would give anything to have my babies where they belong. So I’m so happy for you, honestly I can just imagine the fact that you get to smile and laugh together and not have to worry. I’m happy you’re out of that. Being a fellow empath, you know I really do feel happiness for you ❤️
We can definitely talk more and I’ll check out your page 🙂 Thanks again my dear. Best wishes
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